Partnerships in the generation 50+
Until death does us part – a wish of many couples at the wedding. Getting older together and shaping all phases of life together with your partner. This means giving security and trust, even in the case of serious illnesses. It is said to have a caregiver and mutual support. The greatest desire is to maintain love into old age.
Times are changing
Couples used to stay together, that was just the way it was. They got used to each other. Women often had no other choice anyway. Many did not dare to choose a path without a partner. However, today's generation over 50 is looking for a fulfilling relationship, especially when it comes to retirement. Many want to share their last stage of life with someone and not live next to someone. The profession is no longer in the first place, the children are out of the house and there is time to question the relationship. So it is not surprising that divorce rates for long-term marriages have risen sharply. Many older people prefer to be happy alone rather than unhappy as a couple.
Even if not many believe it: You can fall in love even at an advanced age and find a new partner. Especially after long relationships, everyone knows their expectations and can formulate them. At the same time, the willingness to compromise grows with increasing life experience.
The other life model is to consolidate and redesign the existing partnership . However, many underestimate this work at that stage of life. Because couples must not hold on to the legacy of the stressful years. The time together welds together, a Couple counseling can underpin and strengthen this bond. After all, especially at retirement age, couples can again be couples instead of parents or working people.
Love knows no age and love no age limit
Sexuality is also part of love in the old age and is no longer a taboo topic.
It is important that couples are open with each other. Both have to talk about wishes and fears. It is not about the hot number in bed, the focus is on the exchange of closeness and tenderness.
Whether it's reviving a long-term relationship or a new love in old age – in both cases, happiness together depends on how much everyone contributes. Shape everyday life together, do a lot, define new common goals. Give yourself space and trust yourself.
This is best achieved if you consciously let go from time to time. Let the partner do things alone and find peace of mind during hours together.
