When everyday life guides the relationship
At the beginning of a relationship, we are freshly in love. We have butterflies in our stomachs, everything is good – without restrictions. Life without the other is unimaginable. We agree with everything, we understand everything, we are empathetic, we are interested in the partner and their condition. We compromise and make concessions.
The most important thing is, that the partner is with us
Over time, the relationship stabilizes and we get to know each other properly - with the positive and negative qualities. I and You become Us. The relationship steers towards marriage, home, family. The sense of belonging is great. At the same time, it is important not to neglect one's own independence. But what if love falls asleep in everyday life?
Work, home, relationship and family – all this requires attention. It is hardly surprising when time for two falls by the wayside. Many couples hardly take time for each other anymore. They do not manage to discuss problems and find solutions. Conflicts are resolved quickly and superficially, but the causes persist and repeatedly lead to quarrels and disagreements. As much as routine made everyday life easier, it can also be a real relationship killer. In addition, there are unprocessed experiences from life before the partnership, which suddenly break ground and lead to conflicts or loneliness iin the relationship. A relationship brings out our whole personality with all its strengths and weaknesses.
Many couples often realize too late that everyday life and their own personality guide the relationship and no longer the feelings for each other. Couples counseling teaches helpful strategies and gives tips for activities that rekindle the love.
What helps against everyday relationship life?
A relationship is work. They must not be neglected and left to everyday life. It does not help to believe, that the happiness remains just like at the beginning of the relationship. For a fulfilling, well-functioning and lasting partnership, both partners must invest a lot. Consciously take time for your relationship, as well as for work, education and training or friends. The saying "Without diligence no price" also applies in the partnership. If you want to go through life as a couple in a sustainable and happy way, you really must want it and make time for it.
Communication is the be-all and end-all:
Talk to your partner. Do not exclude them because there is not enough time or the stress is too great for you. A relationship is there to express one's own feelings, thoughts and worries.
Give yourself time:
It is certainly not always easy to find time for each other on top of everyday life stress But it's not impossible. Small rituals break through everyday life. They let you become a couple again. It doesn't have to be the big adventure. Often a walk together, a dinner for two or a mutual massage have a positive effect on the feeling of togetherness.
Give your partnership a joint meaning and find common goals
Stay true to yourself:
It can't always be all about the better half. In a good relationship, couples enrich themselves without becoming dependent. So take time for yourself. Do something alone or with friends – without your partner. Pursue your hobbies alone and bring more passion back into your relationship.
