The influence of social networks on the relationship
Writing letters or using dial telephones – those days are long gone. Today, feelings are communicated via Facebook or emoticons. A new social-public level has also crept into relationships. Range and speed are much greater in the Internet age than they used to be. As a result, many usually react too quickly emotionally. Instead of waiting, calming down and then acting, action is taken immediately. Apart from the emotional explosive of such overreactions, one should not forget that the clicks are documented in social networks and are difficult to undo. The digital possibilities also entice to track and monitor the partner. This can really fuel jealousy and shake up any relationship. Misunderstandings are the order of the day because you make a thing bigger than it is.
Therefore, check who "likes" himself endlessly
Is it good for a relationship to share every thought with the world? Does this cause a couple to lose their connectedness and secrets that distinguish them from a public couple? The intimate relationship needs a private sphere to maintain the basis of trust.
Not only the display of feelings brings dangers to the relationship. A profile on social media also turns individuals into transparent people. It has never been so easy to follow the actions and contacts of others. And it has never been so easy to make new contacts. The inhibition threshold on social media is lower and the flirting opportunities tempting. Especially after a dispute with the partner, the Internet offers a lot of distraction. The virtual world seems to quickly remedy real everyday problems. It pretends that these problems do not exist there and will never do so. A fictitious illusory world that promotes the consumer behavior of our society and is "characterized" by a low inhibition threshold. But beware, maybe the partner has been following all digital activities for a long time?!
How can couples recognize boundaries?
- Treat your partner with respect by regularly agreeing on "mobile-free time".
- Don't use the Internet as a retreat after a dispute. Do not react emotionally on the Internet, stay in communication with your partner.
- In case of sexual dissatisfaction, do not look online for remedy and replacement. Talk to your partner about your dissatisfaction and look for joint solutions.
- Set limits. A harmless flirt on social platforms can be the precursor to adultery.
- Be aware that every comment or image on social media is digitally documented and is difficult to undo.
- Learn, e. B. in a couple counseling, to distinguish the real from the virtual relationship.
- Choose the circle of your social contacts well. Don't accept every contact request from strangers.
- Do not turn your experiences, memories and disappointments into a media spectacle, keep them to yourself.
Banning the use of the Internet altogether is not a solution. But couples should spend their free time better in real exchange with each other, with shared experiences and in qualitative communication.