Strong communication, strong partnership
Communication is one of the most elementary topics for a permanently happy partnership. Couples who "run smoothly" usually exchange ideas regularly.
Many relationship problems arise because couples talk past each other. That's why communication plays an important role in couple counseling ist. It's about getting disagreements out of the way, understanding each other instead of blaming each other. Arguing is not forbidden.
Happy couples do it as well. However, they constructively enter into a conflict and seek a solution that "fits" for both. In couples counseling, both partners learn how to achieve this goal.
Poor communication weakens the partnership
In every partnership there are tensions. They arise when couples live together and have different desires, attitudes and needs. Maybe they don't always share the same values. This influences our daily thinking, feeling, evaluating, acting – and communication. But how do conversations become constructive again? How do you avoid an inconclusive circling around always the same controversial topics such as finances, education, household, leisure time or jealousy. Above all, avoid the following forms of communication:
- generalizing accusations – "We never do anything together"
- constant contradiction
- rejecting proposed solutions
- contemptuous tone of voice or rolling of eyes
- cultivating victimhood and treating partners as perpetrators
- blaming the partner without self-reflection
- turn away, get up and leave the conflict situation
- verbal violence with threats
- physical violence
Normal or correct communication in a relationship is difficult to define, as each partnership follows its own laws. That's a good thing. However, the listed forms of communication show that the relationship basically suffers and help is appropriate. Couple counseling helps both partners avoid quarrels and can prevent conflicts – provided the couple decides early on for professional help.
Tips that instantly improve communication
In fact, there are forms of communication that steer a conflict in a constructive and positive direction. It's just a matter of practice. To do this, you should:
- show interest in the other, listen and ask without evaluating and judging.
- take the partner's perspective to understand them.
- tell your partner openly and honestly what moves you.
- pay attention to your use of facial expressions, gestures, voice and posture.
- both must want a solution and show a willingness to compromise.
- treat each other positively after a conflict, reconcile and sincerely apologize.
- to turn to each other even in a conflict.
bedema couples counseling
With the bedema couples counseling you will find a problem-solving communication in your partnership. You learn reflection strategies as well as communication at eye level and thus create the basis for a lasting, loving relationship or marriage. In a creative process, we develop a fruitful culture of conversation and debate with you and your partner in a very personal atmosphere.
