How do children change the partnership
The first child demands everything from a couple. The whole world is completely turned upside down. In addition to changes in everyday life, a flood of emotions also rushes over the couple – joy, sorrow and fear are constant companions from now on.
A couple has become mother and father. The focus shifts and the time for two becomes significantly less, tensions are inevitable.
The world is upside down!
Pregnancy is exciting for both partners, the anticipation is great and there is so much to organize. No wonder that the parents can hardly wait after 9 months. They finally want to hold their newborn in their arms.
Despite the feelings of happiness, most new parents are not aware that the new family member will now require all their attention around the clock. While partnership, career and independence were previously in the foreground, now it is diapers change and drying tears. Suddenly, it's all about the baby. Couples often realize too late how much work and time a child brings. Most of them lack undisturbed sleep as a vital regeneration time. Sleepless nights and the associated fatigue and irritability are finding their way into everyday life. Parents often feel overwhelmed by the enormous change in life. This also has a significant impact on the partnership. Important conversations, togetherness, mutual participation in the emotional life of the other and love itself are neglected.
Couple counseling can be a support in this challenging time. With professional help, both partners can create the basis for successfully coping with this phase and surviving as a couple.
The transition to parenthood is a great challenge. Couples need to get used to their new life and organize themselves in such a way that all needs are taken into account. Ideally, this process begins even before birth. After that, there is often no time for such fundamental questions. After the birth, the young family has to reorganize itself as well as a couple. Most assume that they know themselves and their partner well. They have the apparent certainty of mastering the new life situation without any problems. But they underestimate the importance of regular exchange especially at this time. Talk about what moves you in everyday life – whether positive or negative. This is the best way to understand each other's needs. When the world is upside down, the partnership should remain a stable foundation.
Happy parents - happy child
Parents put a lot of energy into making their child happy. In doing so, they often forget that a good relationship between parents is important for the healthy development of the child. Children immediately feel stress and problems between parents. Babies up to two years of age feel this unconsciously. They cannot distinguish between their own and others' feelings, the feelings of the parents are also theirs. Thus, the baby suffers with every conflict of the parents. Toddlers, on the other hand, consciously perceive the condition of their parents. They, too, are immensely influenced by their state of mind. If the parents are well, they are more relaxed with their child and this has a positive effect on the child.
Finally alone
Small children, small worries – big children, big worries. Many parents know the saying. As soon as the longed-for offspring is born, the worries about the well-being of the child are there. That's why many parents soon long for the time when the children are out of the house. They want to have more time for each other again. It is important to get this time already after birth. When the child sleeps, couples can talk to each other. If someone takes care of the child, the parents can do something together. Every little walk is valuable time for each other and offers an opportunity for exchange. It depends less on the type of activity than on doing something together as a couple.
In couple counseling we support you in treading this new path and cultivating your partner- and parenthood in such a way that everyone involved is doing well.
